As moms, we are told we must manage it all. Household responsibilities? Deal with it. Taking care of the kids? Handle it. Try to stay on top of groceries, cleaning, after-school activities, and still have time to make dinner and rule the world? You know it.
But giving moms the responsibility to do all that can feel unbearable at times, so to all my fellow mompreneurs out there — I’m with you. Managing a business while being a mom is no easy task, and it definitely comes with its challenges and rewards.
Here are 3 tips you can follow if you’re a mompreneur:
1. Create a Support System
No matter how fearless or able you may feel, none of us can do it alone (nor should we have to). Lean on your people to give you advice, help you out, or pitch in when you really need it. Whether it’s your mother-in-law, a friend, or an assistant, find people who you can rely on and trust to help support you however you need them.
You can start to create a support system by figuring out the areas where you struggle to keep up. This will look different to everyone, so set clear goals for yourself and identify people who are okay to pitch in and support you. Ask yourself what kind of support you need (someone to pickup your kids from school, help with a few weeknight meals, or keep on top of business paperwork) and then make a list of resources that are available to you that can help. These don’t always have to be people — there are lots of amazing companies and apps that are built to help people on the go (Task Rabbit or Mint to name a couple). The great thing about making a list is that you will discover resources you never thought you had. People are willing to help, all you have to do is ask. When you cultivate an environment of support, you will avoid burnout and start to see a change in your ability to achieve your goals.
Here are some examples of support systems:
A husband, parent, or close friend to help guide you spiritually and morally, who understands you at your core and who loves you no matter whatAn assistant or editor who helps you stay on top of important deadlines and projectsAn “accountability buddy” that holds your feet to the fire to make sure you are staying on track with your goals and aspirationsA mentor, who embodies a similar career path and who can help you grow your business Some good girl friends, who understand the necessity of venting and who can give you advice or a non-judgmental ear to listen when you really need it
This is just the tip of the iceberg, but when you really work on this, over time, you will be able to lean on the people in your life to help support you and your goals.
2. Take Personal Time
I talk about this a lot, but that’s because it’s extremely important. If you don’t take time for yourself, you won’t be as good a mother or businesswoman. As the saying goes, you can’t pour from an empty cup. It’s just like when you’re on an airplane and they say, “in case of emergency, put your mask on first” — if you ignore your own needs and are consistently taking care of other people and not yourself, you will burn out. Sometimes, everyone else can wait (yes, even your kids). Learn to give yourself time to relax and recharge so that you can be your best self at home and at work.
Here are some examples of ways you can practice self care:
Sleep longer. I don’t need to rattle off all the reasons why sleep is important, so make an effort to get more sleep, because it’s the first thing you can do that will solve a lot of other things in your life.Get more Vitamin D, because it helps balance and regulate your stress hormones.Have a skincare routine. Taking even just 5 minutes a day to do something for yourself can give you a break and make you feel better.Less screen time. Whether it’s from your phone, laptop, or the TV, eliminate them before bed so that you can give your brain a break.Read about more positivity. With all the chaos that is going on in the world today, it’s important to fill your feed and your mind with positive and uplifting stories to help with your mood.Practice meditation. Research shows that meditating for even just 5 minutes can reduce stress.Get outside, because it can help your physical and mental health by stimulating the immune system and alleviating stress hormones.Write down your gratitude. Seeking things to be grateful for and writing them down is an extremely powerful way to go through your day with a positive mindset.Do something for YOU. Find your favorite thing to do and spend 5-10 minutes a day doing that thing. You will be better for it.
3. Don’t Feel Guilty
This is definitely easier said than done, but mom guilt doesn’t help anyone or any situation. Mom guilt is the feeling of doubt and anxiousness when you feel like you’re falling short of expectations. All moms have it, and especially us mompreneurs, who have to grapple with balancing business and kids without letting either suffer. But the reality is that kids do benefit from seeing their mom busy and successful.
Here are some examples of ways you can eliminate mom guilt:
Don’t compare yourself to other moms. Trust your gut and know that you are doing the best you can in the momentCreate strategies to cope, by squeezing in some quality alone time with your kids in between business activitiesInvolve your kids in your life, and make things fun by letting them help you when making a mealAsk for help (refer to tip #1)
Don’t feel you need to “do it all”.
Don’t lose sight of the every day ways you are being an amazing mom and entrepreneur