What does it mean to be a strong, fearless, confident woman? To me, it’s all about embracing who you are, learning to roll with the punches, and being self-assured. Being “confident” can feel like a daunting and scary task, because for some reason so many women feel like being confident coincides with being arrogant, stuck up, or full of yourself. Well I’m here to tell you that’s not the case AT ALL, and if you really want to make it in business and in life, you have to learn to be confident. Being confident means you are certain about your own abilities and qualities, and you are not ashamed to show it. Here are 8 ways to be more confident:
1. Confidence = Assuredness
Ultimately, the first stepping stone to being confident is being self-assured, and accepting you for exactly who you are right now. It’s feeling safe and secure in who you are, and not looking to others to validate you. Believe in yourself by knowing that you are doing the best you can with the skills that you have. Confident women know exactly who they are and have a deep sense of assuredness because of it.
2. Embrace Purpose
Knowing your strengths and learning to play to those strengths can help you advance both personally and professionally. If you focus on what you excel in, you can put yourself in roles that are suited to those strengths. Confident women don’t dwell on their weaknesses or imperfections, but know how to embrace their purpose and find what they love to do.
3. Be Unapologetic
This doesn’t mean not apologizing if you make a mistake or hurt someone’s feelings, but pertains to not saying sorry just for the sake of saying sorry. I see this everywhere — women apologizing for speaking up, for saying their opinion, or for feeling like they’ve inconvenienced someone by just being there (which is never the case). Never apologize if you haven’t done anything wrong. Confident women don’t needlessly apologize and know how to speak up and stand out without worrying whether someone else will be offended.
4. They Empower Other Women
As Oprah Winfrey has famously said, “The way to help somebody else achieve success is to be willing to help somebody else get it first. It takes nothing away from you.” Read that over again — you can help your fellow women out and it doesn’t take anything away from you. This is important, and the most confident women don’t give mind to jealousy, envy, or resentment, but know how to lift and encourage other women.
5. Don’t Make it Personal
Bad days and mistakes are inevitable, which is why it’s vital to learn to roll with the punches and keep things in perspective. This means that when problems arise, confident women don’t question their worth or value, but instead understand that they can’t control other people’s emotions or certain situations. Confident women always see the light at the end of the tunnel and know how to never take anything personally.
6. Like Who You Are
This may seem obvious to some, but it’s so true. At the end of the day, you are your partner for life, and if you want to be a confident woman, you have to like yourself. This goes a step beyond being self-assured and really relates to being able to enjoy your alone time and embrace who you are. This means knowing how to give yourself a pep-talk when you need a confidence boost or taking time to relax and enjoy a couple hours spent doing something you love that just benefits you. Liking yourself and taking care of yourself isn’t selfish, but is a must if you want to be more confident. You don’t need to be connected to social media all the time or on your phone 24/7. Learning to disconnect and embrace alone time is a necessity. Confident women know how to prioritize their alone time and embrace their individuality.
7. Positive Mindset
Having a positive outlook on life doesn’t come from a series of good outcomes, but from the ability to see things in an optimistic way in spite of bad outcomes. Obstacles and hurdles will come in life, but learning to focus on solutions rather on the problem really makes confident women stand out.
8. Know to Celebrate their Successes
If you achieve something great, it’s important to celebrate! By acknowledging and embracing your wins in life, you are learning that it’s okay to sometimes be the center of attention. Don’t shy away from celebrating YOU, and know when you deserve to feel special and celebrated. After all, you are worth celebrating, so don’t ever forget that.
These are the 8 things you can do right now that will mould you into a more confident, fearless, and strong woman. If you learn to embrace each of these traits, you will continue to be someone that others look up to, and you will be the leader of your own life. When you’re confident, you embrace your strengths and know who you are, which is truly the #1 key to feeling happy and satisfied at the end of the day.